La Femme – Muscular vs. Feminine


My new girl crush is Jessica Alba.  I just so want to be her.  You know, I didn’t even care about her until I saw Sin City where she played this exotic dancer.  Somehow her dark character enveloped me… especially since lately I’ve been going through such a dark period myself.  Obsessed about her physique, I decided to do some research and found this article:

It’s a great article I thought.  Well written, getting into the nitty gritty of being slim.  As I’ve mentioned before, I have friends that are in the fitness world, entering competitions, bodybuilding, getting a low body fat, showing veins cut muscles to the extreme.  Don’t get me wrong, they look great.  In fact, they look more than great, I commend them for such great work.

However,  in the end I’d really rather look like Jessica, smooth and toned but not overly muscular.  As the article stated, it’s easy to get caught up in the pump.   I noticed I’ve been doing that lately, building muscle.  Honestly, I’d like to slim down my arms (which are getting to muscular… I can’t fit into my sleeved shirts anymore which I hate).  The only plus side is that I’ve built a nice firm round butt… which is a huge benefit and I want to keep that up.

Ohhhh the vanity.  What’s a girl to do without it. Some girls shun the vanity girls because they believe they are ostentatious, disingenuous, narcissistic. However, vanity has its place.  It forces one to love oneself.  Ohhh how dare you love yourself? What a sin, to love yourself first before others…..!!!!????  

Have you ever heard of Maslov’s hierarchy of needs?

What does it all mean?  It means that in order to reach self-actualization, you must have self-esteem but esteem doesn’t come alone.  It comes with confidence, achievement, respect of others.

Think of it this way, in the world of selfies, we must embrace who we are.  We are mothers and fathers, and daughters, teachers, students… we should promote self-esteem, because without it we become crooks and liars, and criminals.

I had this class once and we all supposed to get up and sing.  No matter how bad anybody sang, we had to clap and applaud like they were the best.  It was awesome and in the end, everyone felt great!  If only this world was more like that. 

Anyway, getting off subject a bit here.  My point is,  determine what it is you want to look like.  Be vain. Be confident. And mostly, don’t let anyone stop you.


More later friends.

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