A Perspective on Training Solo vs. Being Trained

Hiring a trainer. I always thought in exercise, I’ve always pushed myself harder than any trainer could. I’m a self-motivated, relentless motivator that doesn’t need help.  That being said I’ve done countless workout plans, classes, watched exercise videos. I’ve told myself… I’m an EXPERT.

Uh, wrong! Don’t let your ego ever get in the way of progress.  I needed to humble myself.  Humility is life’s way of telling you… You are not perfect. My failure is also my motivator.  Remember this: There is no end in progress. Progress is a continuous journey that does not stop. You can set mini goals for yourself so you don’t get discouraged.

I’m somewhat fit. Some people would call me very fit yet I don’t have washboard abs.  I have strong legs, the weakest lats and tri’s but I look strong. Muscle imbalances causes problems later on down the line. I had to admit it. I need help.

Soooooooo I hired Ricky from 24 Hour Fitness Sport Club. Ricky’s training is methodical, slow, heavy and technical lifting.  Difficult. I complain, he pushes me forward.  His knowledge surpasses mine by far. Somehow, I’m always out of place, in the wrong position, and he’s correcting that constantly.  He concentrates on a specific muscle so it’s important I follow.  I have a difficult time feeling comfortable with people in general, but for some reason his professionalism works.  His ability to keep me on task is good since I’m so easily distracted. Then diet.  I’m being held accountable. He’s set up my macros. I know I hate it too. Except for cheat meals which I’m allowing two cheat meals once a week, no bread, pizza, cookies, cake, crackers. I’ve planned my meals which is usually some sort of seafood with salad.  I love seafood so it’s the perfect protein for me. Why? Because I’m being measured, weighed which makes me think about everything I’m putting in my body. I’m not saying it’s easy.   For me, it’s my weak link.

Additionally, I have boxing coach Alex from Higley Fit Martial Arts who keeps me on my toes. Alex covers all my hard core intense fast training. I love the torture, the endless kicks, punches, jumps, push-ups, boxing and combos, tire lunges, and sprints.  This is constantly changing and I love the group training atmosphere.  I train with Alex about 4 -5 times a week.  Alex is also technical, and always keeps me guessing on what he has in store for me next. I love boxing and the social interaction which also keeps me competitive.

The combo of the two trainers gives me my fix. Exercise is my drug.


So here’s what I’ve figured out:

  1. You can’t do it yourself.
  2. Trainers make you work harder than yourself.
  3. You are not an expert for everything.
  4. Trainers tells you what you don’t know and can help you reach your goal.
  5. They keep you in check.
  6. They make you do things you would never do on your own.
  7. It’s way more fun with a trainer!

That’s it!   Hearts❤️❤️❤️❤️

Metro World

2015/01/img_3732.jpgMetro World, perfect for running on cold, cloudy days like today.  No photo-shopping to make my legs thinner, or my waist smaller.  I’m not a model. I’m a work in progress.  I love the feeling that filters convey.

The world is full of mystery and new discoveries.  And the world is not perfect.  Be proud of who you are.  Don’t hide your flaws.  There is something to be said about being truthful.  Being real.

Today’s workout:

Sprint hill 10x

Circuit: Front, Side, Reverse lunges, Squats, Bridges

Circuit 2:  V-ups, Planks, back extensions

The Skinny Arm Workout

This photo of me was from two years ago.  At this time in my life I had skinny arms.

Ladies… I had at the time a clean diet.  I practiced portion control, and did lots of resistance exercises.

If you are already skinny and want to just tone, pick up those heavy weights.  You can not get bigger muscle if you are skinny.

If you are overweight, then diet above everything first.  Practice portion control.  Easier said than done I know.  Start eating half of everything you eat… an easy way to start.

As you know you can’t spot reduce, but you can spot tone.  I’m going to give you a series of arm exercises that you can do.  Pick up a set of weights that challenge you.  If you can do more than 8 reps but less than 15 would be your ideal weight.


This is what my arms look like now.  However, keep in mind that this camera angle does make my arms look extra lean.  Remember this pose next time you want your pics make your arms look skinny.  I always look at bodybuilding.com for exercises. Do 8-12 repetitions of each exercise with a 60 sec break in between.  Do 100 jumping jacks.  Repeat 5x.

1. Bicep curls


2. Hammer curls


3. Tricep kick backs


4. Lateral raises (use lighter weights).  These are for shoulders.


5. Tricep dips on chair.


6. 10 push ups.

7. 100 jumping jacks.

Remember the cardio portion is important to get leaner.

Happy Hump Day!


Jennifer Anniston Arms


In my ongoing quest to be fit, I noticed my arms have gotten bigger.  I don’t want big arms.  I want long, lean, arms with some muscle but no veins please.   I love Jennifer’s arms above.

Recently, I’ve been researching Crossfit since a fitness instructor was trying to entice me into her Crossfit class.  I wanted to know what the end result was.  I’ve always admired women with incredible strength, and the ability to do things just the same men if not better.  Examples of fit women I adore are Michelle Lewin, Jen Selter, Caitlin Rice to name a few.  There’s balance in their body and they are equally strong and feminine at the same time.

However, for Crossfit, I was not able to find the feminine physique I admired.  Don’t get me wrong, they look super fit, and probably can do things that most women can’t do. It’s just not what I want for myself.

The question you have to ask yourself if you like the body type that is the end result of that sport? If yes, go for it.  If not, then I would hesitate to continue that sport.  Sometimes, as women we get stuck in our egos. We want to be the best, the fittest.  And sometimes, we lose our goal.

I see swimmers with big shoulders, and bikers with super skinny arms, runners with flat but lean figures, and weight lifters that are muscular physiques, and figure competitors with tighter physiques, leaner muscle.

So here are some questions to ask.

1) Why do you exercise?

2) What body type do you want to achieve when exercising?

3) Are you doing a sport that achieves that?

4) Do you see no progress in what you are trying to achieve?

5) Does your diet follow the physique you are trying to achieve? (protein powder, high carbs, etc.)

6)  Why do you continue the sport.  Do you truly love it?

Sometimes we get caught up in the hype.  Let’s focus.

Happy Sunday…


Friends, groups, and like-minded people…


This is my friend Carol who I adore.  She’s in one beautiful person in my circle and she belongs there.

Recently,  I joined a fitness/diet circle and I realized that it was the wrong circle.  Why should it matter you ask?   Well it does matter?   Yes!!!!!

In this circle, that I recently joined, most of the people in the group were just starting to diet, beginning to exercise and trying to lose weight.

I’m trying to lose weight too, but this group would never understand.  I’m trying to get from 19% body fat to 15%, a difficult feet for a woman.  The lowest I’ve ever been was 17%. I already have a muscular physique and they are just beginning.

The group wanted you to post what you ate daily and what kind of exercise you did.  The diet they recommended was a 1200 calorie diet which wasn’t enough to sustain the lifestyle I had.  I work out approximately 2 1/2 hours a day with cardio and weights, six days a week.  Exercise is second nature to me.  My calorie intake has to be at least 2000 calories a day minimum.  If I started posting what I did, I would be pissing off all these people.

They were posting a 20 minute walk, and their diet was a diet that I could not realistically follow, etc.

You get my jist on this?  So I opted out. 

Friends are the same way in some ways.  If you’ve got several interests, obviously, you probably have different friends that fill that interest. I have some friends into the gym, some into art and some with similar career minded individuals.  Why is this important? Because you need people that you can bounce off ideas.  Most importantly, you must be with people that are within the same level of you in every interest that you have.

I’ll give you an example.  I have a bachelor’s degree in fine art.  I went to one of those paint by numbers and eat dinner things by Groupon for fun.  I painted in a seemingly more advanced way than most of the people because I had been painting for the past 20 years.  I understand shadow and perspective and color.  In reality, I was not painting by numbers, but by experience.  One girl asked me If I’ve done this before, and I said no because I didn’t want to be outed (and I meant the painting by numbers thing).  She seemed angry at me for some reason because she said she’s gone to a lot of those things.  I didn’t consider it a real class because it was not teaching you anything.  Anyway, again, I needed to be with people more on my level, who have been painting close to the time I have to truly learn something.

With friends, you want people at your level.  Why? I think because it’s unhealthy to be in a relationship where one person is in a lot lower level than you or you a lot lower than them unless you are in a teaching relationship.  That is not a friendship, but an agreement between teacher/student.

I always talk about the pessimists and the negators of success or sometimes they call themselves realists.  Some realists believe that their negative reality is real.  We all have these negative people in our lives and sometimes they are our parents, our brothers and sisters, our friends and our colleagues.  I believe that you must keep your distance as much as possible from them or if you have to be around them, take their advice lightly.  They can suck every last hope you have out of you. The real reality is that success is actually possible but without belief you will never get there. You have to be choosy about our friends and that includes friends that can be clingy, or possessive, or create too much unnecessary drama in your life.  Consider your time precious.  You cannot be friends with everyone and that’s it. It’s not cruel.  It’s selective and it’s your life.  Those people will find other people to hang out with.  This is a big wide world.  Remember that.  People who act like they need you are developing an unhealthy codependent relationship.

How do you start believing in success in anything if you don’t have those type of people around you?  I got a reading list for you.  Start reading some of these one at a time and start finding people close to your level… positive people.  See below:

  1. How to Win Friends and Influence People (Paperback)
    by Dale Carnegie
  2. Rich Dad, Poor Dad (Paperback)
    by Robert T. Kiyosaki
  3. The Richest Man in Babylon (Paperback)
    by George S. Clason
  4. Magic Of Thinking Big (Paperback)
    by David J. Schwartz
  5. The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success: A Practical Guide to the Fulfillment of Your Dreams (Hardcover)
    by Deepak Chopra
  6. Eat That Frog!: 21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less Time (Paperback)
  7. The 80/20 Principle: The Secret to Achieving More with Less (Paperback) by Richard Koch
  8. How to Win Friends and Influence People (Paperback
    by Dale Carnegie

I know some of these might sound a little too motivational for some but maybe that’s what you need.  Think about it.  Don’t surround yourself with people who suck the life out you.  It’s your life.


Think about it.







La Femme – Muscular vs. Feminine


My new girl crush is Jessica Alba.  I just so want to be her.  You know, I didn’t even care about her until I saw Sin City where she played this exotic dancer.  Somehow her dark character enveloped me… especially since lately I’ve been going through such a dark period myself.  Obsessed about her physique, I decided to do some research and found this article:


It’s a great article I thought.  Well written, getting into the nitty gritty of being slim.  As I’ve mentioned before, I have friends that are in the fitness world, entering competitions, bodybuilding, getting a low body fat, showing veins cut muscles to the extreme.  Don’t get me wrong, they look great.  In fact, they look more than great, I commend them for such great work.

However,  in the end I’d really rather look like Jessica, smooth and toned but not overly muscular.  As the article stated, it’s easy to get caught up in the pump.   I noticed I’ve been doing that lately, building muscle.  Honestly, I’d like to slim down my arms (which are getting to muscular… I can’t fit into my sleeved shirts anymore which I hate).  The only plus side is that I’ve built a nice firm round butt… which is a huge benefit and I want to keep that up.

Ohhhh the vanity.  What’s a girl to do without it. Some girls shun the vanity girls because they believe they are ostentatious, disingenuous, narcissistic. However, vanity has its place.  It forces one to love oneself.  Ohhh how dare you love yourself? What a sin, to love yourself first before others…..!!!!????  

Have you ever heard of Maslov’s hierarchy of needs?

What does it all mean?  It means that in order to reach self-actualization, you must have self-esteem but esteem doesn’t come alone.  It comes with confidence, achievement, respect of others.

Think of it this way, in the world of selfies, we must embrace who we are.  We are mothers and fathers, and daughters, teachers, students… we should promote self-esteem, because without it we become crooks and liars, and criminals.

I had this class once and we all supposed to get up and sing.  No matter how bad anybody sang, we had to clap and applaud like they were the best.  It was awesome and in the end, everyone felt great!  If only this world was more like that. 

Anyway, getting off subject a bit here.  My point is,  determine what it is you want to look like.  Be vain. Be confident. And mostly, don’t let anyone stop you.


More later friends.



LOL, now that’s not real!

There’s so much doubt out there.  And among all the haters, the negaters, the non-believers who overwhelm the world, there is one believer.

Believe the impossible, believe the achievers, worship the goal-attainers.  Defy gravity.

What does that mean? It means that out there in this cynical world is an optimist.  Surround yourself with successful, optimistic people.

Yes the world is not all rainbows and butterflies, but would you rather focus on vermin, deceit, and disbelief?

Reality has its place.  What I mean is sometimes, reality is STARING at you right in the face, and the most negative will reject and deny.

Of course this applies to all aspects in your world.  If it’s a fact, believe it.  If it’s reality believe it. Dozens of people in the fitness world has obtained fantastically fit bodies.  And guess what? It’s actually not photo-shopped.  If you don’t believe it go to a fitness show.  Then, you can’t deny that it can happen.

1. Surround yourself with positive people

2. Find proof before doubt

3. Believe in the attainable

4. Get the facts

5. Avoid haters, negaters

6. Find successful people and study them

7. Be with like minded people

8. Be happy first, negative last.

Today’s Workout:

Bodyweight Circuits

Pushups, prisoner lunges, planks, jumping jacks, walkouts, squats, inverted row, mountain climbers.. repeat 5x no rest.

Happy Monday!